Raise Your Standards

Always Raising the Bar: How to Start Living a Better Life

What happens when you realize that you are not living your best life? What happens when you decide to change the way you operate?

When we begin to understand that we are living at our lowest standards then we will begin to see that we can be more and that it's time to level up. When we attempt to level up, we have tendencies to self-sabotage. We don’t let ourselves succeed because it is out of our comfort zone and our ego must try and take control and bring us back to our lowest standards that we are used to.

We have these standards in our lives that determine how we live. Of course, we are the masters of our own standards: if you have really low standards then your life has a very low standard. If you have very high standards your life is a higher standard and better outcomes. It’s like having a bank account. For your bank account you probably have a cap-- a certain number that you hit frequently and that you can't break through.

It’s like the glass ceiling. You can see through the glass and you think you can burst through it, but you hit it and can’t break through. You end up back at the very bottom again with your bank account at zero. You run out of money or you only have a thousand bucks left and that’s when you start panicking. This is when you tell yourself: I need to get my shit together. I'm going to make all the money in the world now.

So you go ahead and make a bunch more money. You hit the top of that ceiling and then you repeat the same mistakes of highs and lows. These numbers represent a pattern in our lives or a constant. It’s a constant pattern that we do to ourselves.

We have ceilings that we hit, and then we self-sabotage. We get to a point in our life where we get a good relationship, we make a great deal, or we make a lot of money. We have these small successes but then do something to sabotage ourselves. It’s not a conscious choice of course. We stop our own happiness because of our brain, our upbringing, the way we were hardwired. It's because these habits that we develop from birth that we have negative loops that we go through over and over again in our lives.

One example is that maybe you are born a burden to your parents. They weren't planning on having a baby and you became a weight for them. You grew up feeling like you are strain on their resources, relationship, or life in general. This sense of being born a hardship on others will follow you throughout your life unfortunately.

You grow up, you go out into the world, and you would create beautiful things. However, instead of feeling grateful, and blessed that you created something, you might feel sometimes what you've created is a burden to yourself. You have to be able to connect the dots and break through that standard, and realize that you are a great, incredible person in this world. You have to be grateful for things you do have instead of resenting the things you are still lacking.

It is difficult when every time you do something incredible you start to self-sabotage yourself by thinking it's some sort of burden and fucking up. This is just one of those stupid, emotional games that our body does to us. Sometimes, we won't know why we're self-sabotaging ourselves. We'll get into a great relationship and start falling in love. This good fortune will trigger something in us and say that this is too good for me. I don't deserve love. This feeling of being inadequate then leads you to do unhelpful things and fucking it up. It's not necessarily your fault-- it's never necessarily your fault. It's just the way you're wired.

However, you still need to take a step back and look at your life, look at what you've done. You need to observe the ceilings that you've hit, and then see the fallout that you've created. You can really start to see a pattern and start to see your standards you’ve created. If you look closely, you'll be able to see your lowest standard and your highest standard.

In order for you to truly step into your genius life, into your happiest life, you really have to accept that the next time you might do great things that there is a potential that you might self-sabotage yourself. You've done it in the past and the problem is that it is most likely to happen again-- and that’s okay. It's not a conscious thing. It's a subconscious thing and you can still combat it. You can face yourself and try again.

One way you can combat this tendency to self-sabotage is by essentially feeling gratitude for what you do have, and not resentful for what you lack. It’s also essential that when you get something good going in your life you keep those good vibrations going.

What we have to do, because it happens regardless, instead of letting the universe and letting our mind drag us back down, we have to set the new standard. You have to constantly be upkeeping your new mindset. Instead of letting your work get shitty, you have to keep your work at that high vibration and be watching your income flow. You can invest your money in doing things that will make you happier and more fulfilled.

Once you’ve reached that new standard, and made enough money, you say: okay, this is actually the new standard. However, there is always more to do. I'm going to bring in my own suffering, my personalized suffering, because pain isn't necessarily a bad thing. Pain is what makes us stronger. Pain is the thing that tells us if we're hurting ourselves. If we didn't have pain people would do all kinds of self-destructive shit. They would probably cut off their limbs as a new fad or something. Pain is there regardless of whether we want it or not. We have to learn to face it and deal with it.

Pain is also good because it shows you how far you can go. If you want to build muscle you have to rip the muscles and have them rebuild stronger. So pain is a good thing. Pain tells you when you’re close to leveling up. Whenever you hit those new highs and that new ceiling is right above you, that new big life that you're going for, you may start to struggle more. You start to hurt a little bit again because you’re ripping muscles and stretching yourself. It's important that you do your own sort of cleanse when you start to hurt. Remember to be truly grateful for what you have when you’re hurting.

Instead of feeling any sense of lack you can start to tell yourself stories about what you do have. You can remind yourself that have a great sense of humor. You are very creative. You have a nice place to live and good food. Remember to look around yourself and see the good things.

Furthermore, instead of spending and splurging like we normally do to reward ourselves, try something different. Yes, pay yourself first and reward yourself for your hard work, but also consider a wider picture. Some of the happiest people are the people that remember to give back. Remember to save your money, pay yourself, and also pay the world. Be grateful for the nice place you live by giving back to the local park or food bank or anything. Just make sure you do something to counteract your environment or else you’ll be taken back to your lowest standards.

You have to constantly draw the line and say this is where I live my life. I live my life above this line now, and then you go into that next level. You set the new standards. This is how we grow. This is how we learn. This is how we improve and you're constantly doing that and constantly getting better and leveling up.

Understand that sometimes you're going to hit those ceilings, and you're going to need to take a break. However, during these breaks you're not going to let yourself self-sabotage, you're going to instead own your suffering and push yourself to do better. You want to set a goal for yourself at those moments, a hard goal. In the military there’s this song called Old King Cole, and he was saying that married men are weak. And I think that's kind of cool because married men are weak. I don't mean physically or emotionally weak, we all want to be happy, and there's nothing wrong with happiness. Nevertheless, if you truly want to know what you're worth you’ve got to go through some hardship sometimes, but it's better to self-induce those hardships than to have the universe or your subconscious or something do it for you. So push yourself before something else pushes you harder.

This is how you can constantly be improving in life. We can constantly push ourselves in certain areas. We can see what we can do with everything and see what we're really made of. It all comes down to mental stuff and the mental games we play. If you really want to take the leap into your higher self, your best life, your genius life, you have to embrace that you're always raising your standards. You have to embrace that you love yourself enough to raise the bar to step your game up. Of course, say that when you're at that new high level, you have to be able to set your own standards and then live through the struggle of not self-sabotaging, not overindulging.

I recommend giving yourself a dose of some hard love and keep setting higher bars for yourself to overcome. This is the new standard; we're not going back to the old way of doing things. This is how he fucking do things now in this life and this time that I have. I'm not saying burn yourself out or push yourself too hard. I'm saying to do things the right way. See that you're at that next level right now and you’ve gotten that next paycheck, you get the next big deal that happens. Call it Ground Zero. We are going to frickin eat ramen noodles and bust out to get to that next check so that I can have this you know, next life, this good life. I'm going to personally work my butt off through this. It’s a kind of sacrifice. We need that though; we need to self-sacrifice instead of self-sabotage.

I think there's so much value in just realizing that there is an up and a down and you have the power to decide which direction you go in. There is more going on in our lives more than a bank account-- it's also our relationships, our lifestyle, and our friends. It's like when you clean your room. So you'll let your room get to a certain level of disorder, dysfunction, and then you'll finally clean it, or the dishes, you let enough shit into your sink without taking care of it. And then finally, when there's too much, that's when we act, or we take care of it every day. And we do the hard stuff. We don't let the easy things take over and we say “It’s time to clean the sink spotless” every day. This is the new standard for my sink. And you can do that with all sorts of things in your life and you just keep raising your standard. And you're going to end up with some incredible things and an amazing life because you didn't settle.

You didn't let yourself be the worst version of yourself, but you made yourself into the best version of yourself. I want you to look into your life and see the highs and lows that you go through. I know that when you're in those real deep-down lows you have that comeback power to push yourself out of those situations. You have the power to hit that new next standard and then go into your best life, into true productivity, creativity, and enjoyment in your life.


Transcript of the show "Raise Your Standards"
When we begin to understand that we are living at our lowest standards. We will begin to see that we can do more be more and that its time to level up. When we level up we have tendencies to self sabotage because we are out of our comfort zone and our ego has to try and take control and bring us back to our lowest standards were we are used to being.

So, I've actually talked about this a little before, but we have standards in our lives. And we are the lowest denominator of our personal standards. If you have really low standards. Your Life has a very low standard. If you have very high standards, your life is a higher standard if your vibrations are high. If you don't let yourself Fall low stuff, you know. And it's really interesting. And the only way that I can connect it is with bank accounts, right? So, for your bank account, right, you probably have a cap, like a certain number that you hit frequently, that you can't break through.
It's like, you know, the glass ceiling, you think you can burst through it, and then you hit it, and then you go back down. And then you hit your very bottom glass ceiling down at the bottom, in your bank account, right? You run out of money, or you get to like, you know, thousand bucks or whatever it is where you start panicking. And this is where you're like, Okay, I need to get my shit together. I'm gonna fucking make a bunch of money now. And then you make a bunch more money. Right and then you hit that top, ceiling.

And these are a numbers representation of the constant And I'm trying to talk about today. So for our lives, we do it to ourselves. We have ceilings that we hit, and then we do self sabotage. self sabotage isn't quite the right word. But it's like, we get to a point in our life where we get a good relationship, we make a great deal, or we make a lot of money, right? And then we do something to sabotage ourselves. And it's not even us. It's it's our brain. And it's because our brains, our habits, you know, we're, we make habits out of everything. We have loops that we go through in our lives.

So the weird example that I can give you is, let's say that when you were born, you were a burden, in some sense to your parents, your parents. weren't planning on having a baby. So you became a burden, though in their lives. And you grew up feeling this kind of way. I know, depressing, I'm sorry. But you grew up feeling like you were a burden

to the world. So then you would go out there, and you would create beautiful things.
And instead of feeling grateful, and blessed that you created something, you might feel like sometimes what you've created is a burden as well to yourself, right? So you have to be able to connect the dots and break through that standard, and realize that you are a great, incredible person in this world. But what can happen is every time you do something incredible You could self sabotage yourself by thinking it's some sort of burden, and then fucking up. This is just one of those stupid, emotional games that our body is in does to us. Sometimes, we won't know why we're self sabotaging ourselves, we'll get into a great relationship, we'll start falling in love. And then we'll fucking trigger something in us and say that this is too good for me. I don't deserve love. And you can start doing things and fucking it up. You can start like sabotaging yourself in a way. And it's not necessarily that it's your fault. It's never necessarily your fault. It's just kind of how you're wired. But if you're able to take a step back and look at your life, look at what you've done. And then see the ceilings that you've hit, and then see the fallout that you've had. You can really start to see a map start to see your standards in a way, but you'll be able to see your lowest standard and your highest standard. Now, in order for you to truly step into your genius life into your happiest life, you really have to understand that the next time you're going to get good and great things, there is a potential that you might self sabotage yourself. If you've done that in the past, if you don't, maybe you're golden, but I think most people do. And it's not like a conscious thing. It's a subconscious thing, in the way that you can combat it, though, is by essentially feeling gratitude for what you have, and not gratitude for what you lack. But it also is a sense of when you get something good going in your life. You keep that good vibration going. And what I think we have to do though, because I think I think it has happens regardless, until we can truly dig deep inside of ourselves. So, instead of letting the universe and letting our mind drag us back down, we have to set the new standard is this now, and you have to constantly be saying that you have to say, instead of letting your work get shitty, you have to let you have to keep your work at that high vibration at that high money wise, you know, you can invest your money in do things that will make you happier, and things like that. But maybe when you get that all time high of your money, you say, Okay, this is actually the new standard. Now, I'm going to bring in my own suffering, my personalized suffering, if you will, because pain isn't necessarily a bad thing. Okay? Pain is actually what makes us stronger. Pain is the thing that tells us if we're fucking, you know, hurting ourselves, you know, so If we didn't have pain, people would do all kinds of weird shit, they'd probably have like, they'd be cutting off their limbs as a new fad or something, you know what I mean? But pain is there. So we, we hurt so that we hurt ourselves. We don't hurt ourselves bad enough to like kill ourselves. So and pain is also good because it shows you how far you can go. And then if you want to build muscle, you have to rip the muscles and then have the rebuild stronger. So pain is a good thing. So whenever you hit those new highs, right, that new ceiling, the new big life that you're going for it and you get close, and you feel it. It's important that you do your own sort of cleanse. Once you hit that all time high. It's the it would be something like it would be become truly grateful for what you have now. Instead of feeling any sense of lack instead of Feeling ungrateful or making up stories about things to be ungrateful about? These are important. And then instead of spending and splurging like we normally would when we get a huge reward, yes, pay yourself first reward yourself, but put it in place, that you're only going to do a certain amount of that, you know, and then you're going to do some sort of hate to say like, repents sounds fucked up, but just know like, you have to do something to counteract yourself environment or something from taking you back down to your lowest standards. So you have to constantly you know, just draw the line and just say, this is where I live my life. I live my life above this fucking line now, and then you go into that next level, right? Then you set the new standards. This is how we grow. This is how we learn. This is how we improve and You're constantly doing that and constantly getting better and leveling up. And then understanding that, sometimes you're gonna hit those ceilings, and you're gonna need to take a break. But you're not going to let yourself be self sabotage, you're going to instead cause your own sort of system of suffering or your own self push, you know, you're like, you want to set a goal for yourself at those moments, a hard goal, you know, and the military, you know, he's singing the song called Old King Cole, and he was saying that married men are weak. And I think that's kind of cool, you know? Because married men are weak. And I don't mean, I mean, we all want to be happy, and there's nothing wrong with happiness. But if you truly want to know what you're worth, you got to go through some hardship sometimes, but it's also better to self induce that than to have the universe or your, your subconscious or something. Do it for you.
So just think this is how You can constantly be improving in life. We can constantly you know, push ourselves in certain areas of our lives. And like, see what we can do with everything. See what we're really made of, I guess. And it's all comes down to mental stuff mental games we have. But if you really want to take the leap into your higher self, your, your best life, your genius life, you have to embrace that you're always raising your standards. And you have to embrace that you love yourself, enough to raise the bar to step your game up. And then say that when you're at that new high level, you have to be able to set your own standards and then live through the struggle of not self sabotaging, not over indulging, you know, these are all they're all interesting things. And then I recommend And also trying to, like, cure, not cure yourself. But give yourself a dose of some hard love, you know, sets your new standards. This is the new bar of my life. This is the new standard, we're not going back to the old way of doing things. This is how he fucking do things now in this life and this time that I have. And I'm not saying like burn yourself out or push yourself too hard. I'm just saying to do things the right way. And then see that you're at that next level right now like that the next paycheck, you get the next big deal that happens. Just say, Okay, this is now Ground Zero. We are going to frickin eat ramen noodles, and bust out to get to that next check so that I can have this you know, next life, this good life. And I'm just going to work my butt off through this. So it's like, it's like your own sacrifice. I think that's the word have to self sacrifice a little instead of self sabotage. Yeah, so you just got to set your standards higher. And I think there's so much value in just realizing that there is this up and down, going on in our lives more than a bank account, you know, more than anything, it's our relationships. It's our lifestyle. It's our friends. There's a lot of like, we, we have a limiting thing. It's like when you clean your room, right? So you'll let your room get to a certain level of disorder, in dysfunction, and then you'll finally clean it, or the dishes, you get you let enough shit into your into the sink without taking care of it. And then finally, when there's too much, that's when we act, or we take care of it every day. And we do the hard stuff. We don't let the easy things take over and we say okay, this clean, sink, spotless. This is the new standard for my sink. And you can do that with all sorts of things in your life and you just keep raising your standard raising your standard. And you're going to end up with some incredible things and an amazing life because he didn't settle. He didn't let yourself be the worst version of yourself but you made yourself into the best version of yourself. And I think that's what it's all about. And I want you to look into your life now and see the highs and lows that you go through. And know that when you're in those real deep down lows, you have that comeback power to push yourself out of those situations and hit that new next standard and then go go go go into the your best life into true productivity, creativity and enjoyment in your life. So that has been the spiel. Thank you guys for listening and watching hope the wind didn't screw it up too much. And please share this on your social media. It's all I'm asking. I just want more people to hear my wisdom. I'm trying to help as many people as I possibly can. I'm getting my studio this weekend. It's fucking Monday. So by Saturday or Sunday, I'm gonna have a brand new spankin studio and it's on my teach you guys some cool, cool stuff. Take care, not mistake.




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